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Christian Holzhausen originally had his own advertising agency until he realized that advertising and marketing no longer aligned with his personal goals. Today, as a coach, Christian helps other people take the truly decisive step to find their own happiness and fulfillment.

In this episode, Christian shares how his "Life 5.0" program helps his clients find out where their fulfillment lies, what has been holding them back and how they can put the first steps on their new path into action.

Julia: I'm delighted to have Christian Holzhausen as my guest today. Welcome, Christian!

Christian: Hello, it's great to have the opportunity to talk to you today. I'm very happy about that.

Why are we looking for change?

JuliaChristian: Yes, I'm very happy too. I think that wehave some topics wherecertainlymany can empathize with. Among other things, it's about serenity, self-realization, transformation.How do I create change in my life?What do you think is the main reason why people want change in the first place?

Christian: That's a very interesting question."Gut happiness"is what this is all about, and how the gut reacts to life circumstances. I think the point is that most people - and this is where I tell part of my story - stumblethrough life and always have a latent dissatisfaction thatfloatssomewhere underground.

I know that from myself.I know that from my parents.I think yougetto a pointin life wherethe question suddenly arises:"Is that all there is to it now? be?" This happens more today than in the past. There can be many different triggers.Triggers are very often situations such as a separation, perhaps an illness in the family or your own illness. There may even be a caseof someone leaving life, someone leaving.
There are such drastic momentswhen you ask yourself the question: What would happen ifthat were the case for me now? We often need this reflection. As stupid as it is,we need to see what is happening to the other person in order to recognize it for ourselves: What if this were mine right now? Would I be happy and satisfied with the way things have turned out, or do I have the feeling that there is more to it?
I believe that wetend tolose sight of this topic of changeandget stuck in the daily grind. And everything is getting faster and faster.Aboutfive years ago, I reada study with the headline: "In German companies,95% of communication is faster."At that moment, I asked myself: is this acurse ora blessing? Because on the one hand, it's great. Some processes work faster. But that doesn't mean that people have less to do, that people have more peace and quiet. Instead,itsimply means thatthe workload increases more and more and that Iam carriedfurther and furtheraway from the question:What dodo I actually want with my life?
It seems that sometimesit takes these incisive moments, to find yourself consciously: Am I actually there,where I think I belongor am I not? I think this is even more present today than it was perhaps 30, 40, 50 years ago.

Julia: From my point of view, it's oftenlike that -perhaps,because I naturally have to do with the topic of health -that many people wait until the level of suffering is high enough. Especiallythechanging your diet"hurts many"because - yes, I say - it is also a"consolation" or simply a comfort zone that many people prefer to leave almost as a last resort. I've often heard people say that too:"The only thing I still enjoyss in life is the food." And that's when many people fight back. When the level of sufferingss enough, when I feel bad enough, only then am I prepared to change.

Christian: Nutrition, on the one hand, is often this satisfaction, the substitute satisfaction and the reward.I have occasionally offered coaching sessions for nutritional advice.Not when they didn't know what to do, but as a supplement for the participants. Very often the topic was: people don't eat because they're hungry, but - and I thought this was a nice image - because they want to feel different at that moment.Then they reach for the slice of bread, the chocolate, the potato chips, whatever. It's simplyto get a different, better feelingfrom the tastein that moment, which then often turns into the exact opposite. Namely this"Oh, now I've already again ..." -"Man, I'm stupid. But I can't do it either..." And thenthat self-reproach pops up again.

Are we still in control of our decisions under stress?

Julia: I knowss how much you deal with the subject of the brain? We have different areas of the brain. We have this so-called"reptilian brain"which is a biton autopilot and then justthe frontal brain, which says:"I want this now!" and the reptilian brain says:"Nah, but I want it differently." Is there a way of dealing with these areas or perhaps a better way of understanding them?

Christian: Ilike todifferentiate betweenthree levels in my work.Ieven subdividethem a little more. There's a nice lecture by GeraldHüther in which he breaks it down. It's really nice to see. He shows brain scans,and where it lights up red is activity. Heasks:"Okay, when people get stressed, what happens?" Normally we decide.At least that's what we think. There are the"action-guidingpatterns " - as he describes them - from the frontal brain. That means data-contrast="auto">ss tdecision, or the implementation of the decision, comes from the frontal brain.
GeraldHüther says that when people get stressed and the stress has reached a certain level, at some point the patterns that guide our actions no longer come from the frontal brain. We then switch back to early childhood patterns.An example that I always like to use in lectures:Imagineone ofthose American lawyer movies or films like thatin which an office situation is shown. Thensomethingdoesn't workand the protagonist in the movie clears the desk with his arm. These are patternslike that.If the stress is sogreat that nomore action-guiding signals come from the frontal brain, thenwe work with the early childhood,the limbic part.
When the stress increases even further. If it gets even worse, then we are ready to switch back to the basal brain.There are only three reaction patternsin the basal brain: there is attack.The brain gets an impression, for example: Is it worth attacking? Then I attack. If that seems hopeless, then I go into the flight response. And if the flight responseand attackseem hopeless, then I go into rigidity.
In presentations, I alsolike to ask: "What do I recognizeabout the companywhen people - employees - are under stress?" Those who gointo attackmodego to the boss and complain, complain. We should even be gratefulfor this because it shows that there is a real needfor action: There is a real need for action here. Becausethose whoareon the run are calling in sick. They are simply no longer there. And those who are beyond that are just sitting there and not actually doing anything productive. They are there, but nothing happens. That's the analogy with stress thatGeraldHüther makes very nicely, about thethree areas of the brain. And in the end, that's how it is.
You talk about the unconscious and the conscious part.We humans always believe that reason is the deciding factor. There are neurobiological studies, even relatively old ones, that clearly show that a decision has already been made in areas of the brain before it reaches the frontal brain. Before anything is even clear.
In the end, we willperhapsrelate thisto your topic. What I have learned for myself in recent years is that we can ask ourselves the question:Where do these limbic reaction patterns come from?In the senseof: "I'm going to reach into this bag", without possibly being able to consciously controlit.
I had a client during this nutritional consultation - it was totally fascinating. She had really good results from this nutritional consultation. And then something happened.She came to me and said:"I'm not getting anywhere." I asked:"What's happened? What has changed?" It took us quite a whilebefore she said:"Well,at some pointIstarted not sticking to it completely." I said:"Aha, that's exciting." And thenat some point she said: "Well, honestly? Losing weight is also exhausting. Losing weight isalsototally painful, a total torture." I just looked at her, smiled and said:"You see, that is a belief system. It's a belief system that you are fulfilling100%." She continued to lose weight, but she really struggled with it and it went very slowly - exactly in line with herbelief system.
Because what had she done? She just treated herself to that one scoop of ice cream. Or those two bars of chocolate. Just so that her system wasmaintained, that dieting or losing weight - whatever you want to call it - is slow, that it's difficult, that it's exhausting, that it works for everyone else but not for her. She has created a wonderful self-fulfilling prophecy for herself.

Beliefs

I think we need to make ourselves aware at this point: What do we believe about things? For example, about losing weight. Orin the area ofsuccess coaching, many people ask themselves the question: What do I believe about money? Exactly the same. What do I believe about success? And there's a nice saying:"Whether you believe you can do it or not, you'll always be right", because it's a programming that takes place in thesubconscious.
You asked: What can I do about it?Ihave to read between the lines,because beliefs are not written on your forehead.When I think back to my story...I have a life theme.My life themeis:"I'm not good enough." >" I learned this very early on in my life.
When I listen to people, I now have a very, very accurate sensefor this kind of thing and Iknow exactly where this belief is working because I can recognize it relatively well:That is thebelief behind it. Of course, I have also gained my own experience. But you need that in the other person. When I attended my first coaching sessions,I went to my trainer at the timeandsaid:"I'm not getting anywhere here and there". Hethentold meone of those beliefs where Isaid:"Oh,shit, that hurts right now." But then I said:"Nah, of course it's got nothing to do with me." Of course it ismy topic.
I think that's the important thing, to get away from it. To the listeners: WhenJulia says something here in the podcast and you have the feeling ... There are two reaction patterns. Either you have the feeling: "Yes, she's right", then it's an issue for you. Andif you think"Wow, no. I think she's crazy! What kind ofshit is that? This has nothing to do with menothing nothing to do with me!" Then you alsoknow: "Okay, it's your topic."

JuliaYes. Everything that creates resonance in the end.

Christian: Exactly. That's the focus that we can open up and where we can pay attention: Where does something stir within us? Where do we notice:It's starting to grate here.It feels strange here. Now I always know: Okay, there's an issue here for me. And if thathappens - this is always my recommendation - make a note ofitfor the next day.The next day, I make sure that I can talk about it with someone - no matter who it is. And that requires a bit of self-discipline at the beginning.

Julia: So the first step is basically: I recognize what beliefs are there in the first place? What do I think? Or: What stories am I telling myself? And the next step is to discuss this with someone?

Christian: Yes, exactly.

JuliaAnd what's the point of discussing it? Or what comes afterwards?

Christian: It always depends on who you talk to. You can discuss it with your boyfriend or girlfriend. They'll probably say:"Oh, yeah? Oh, I'm so sorry about that. Really?" That's one category. It can also be really good. I don't want to questionthe supportive exchange at all, I love that too.Sometimes Ialso like simply telling someone that things are really going toshit and then just hearing:"That's right, you're right. It's reallyshittyat the moment and I can understand that it feels stupid."It's really difficult in coaching circles to find someone whojust saysthat. With most >then comes:"Okay. What would be the first step to get out of it?" I love both, without question, but that's more in the"friend" category.
But the category I recommend as a solution is anexperiencedcolleague.The question is always:how can I recognize an experienced colleague?That's not an easy question to answer.I deliberately say at the first meeting,regardless of whether it's online or offline:" At the end of this first meeting,we'll both decide whether we're going to go down this path together or not. If you don't have a good feelingabout it, if you don't think I'm the right person for you, then we'll end it. And ifI feel like I'm not the right one, then we'll end it." I think that's really important,because it takes this honesty and openness to work through this process.
I can look at it from two angles. You asked: "What happens then?" There are two possibilities. From my educational background, I have done a lot in the field of NLP. I also did a training course called "ROMPC". That always sounds great, even when Isay it out loud: it's "Relationship-Oriented Meredian-Based Psychotherapy Counselling and Coaching". I always like to say: "The acronym is now destroying itself."
It's important to understand what's in it.Because what's in it is basically a combination of different teachings from transactional analysis, depth psychology and energetic psychology. It's a lot about tappingmeridian points that are used. It is about neurobiological findings that have been incorporated. Hüther 's findings, for example, have been incorporated into a lot of the work. In addition the founder comes from Kassel, from a quasi-neighborhood.

How microtraumatization contributes to the formation of beliefs

NLP is very solution-oriented, goal-oriented. I only look forward. I ask myself the question:"Okay, what is the next step you can take?"There are definitely cases when people havegotinto problem situationsin turbulent timesthat something like aresource transfer helps really well.That's something we can do well in NLP, for example. But then I sometimes notice that people take a first step forward and then suddenly go back to the status quo and don't change.
Then Iknow - and I often hear this beforehand - thatthere is some kind ofstory behind it. I'll use abigword, whichisn't reallymeantin such abigway, but there istraumabehindit.It doesn't always have to be thishugetraumatization, it can be small traumasfrom childhood. I like to tell my clients the following image: Imaginea child, let's say 4-5 years old, walks a certain path and at the end of the path is a ditch. Andthe child walks along this path, comes to this ditch, thinks to himself:"Haha! I'll jump over it!",is perhaps still brave, is open-minded, falls in, breaks his leg. That's not the bad thing. The bad thing iswhenmom and dadcome alongand condemnthe child for trying it. And that is traumatization, for example.
Because what the child's soul expects is:"<span data-contrast="auto">Ouch! Ihavehurt myself now. Mom and dad, they are my caregivers, they have to come and hold me in their arms and hold me, comfort me, care for me with love." This is what the child's soulexpects and needsat that moment.And if the child experiences thatthis is why - even if this is not true in terms of content; the parents do not love the child any less because of this - but if it does not experience what it has as a deep, longing desire, then this ensures that a fear of death arises,an existential fear. This leads to the formation ofbeliefs.
Now we turn the wheel of life forwards. Thereisnowan adult who has experienced this, who is going down this path with the same criteria and at the end is also the ditch, who will - and this is just a metaphor at this point - possiblyform many, manybeliefs: "You can't go down a path like that." -"I'm not strong enough." - "I can't jump far enough." -"I'm not strong enough." -"I'm not this." -"I'm not this."Just to escape this old danger of death or this fear of death that was there in childhood logic.
That's how imprints are created. This childlike soul, which everyone carries within them,sometimesjust needsthe certainty:"Yes, back then thisfittedinto thereality of life, but it may no longer fit intothe reality of my life today." And to make it a little clear to the younger self that it is safe today.
That's anelementthathas helped me to recognize very, very much through this training in ROMPC: There are relational needs that people have, and if these are not met - especially in childhood - this gives rise to beliefs, gives rise to attitudes, gives rise to This causes injuries, micro-injuries thatcan build up over the years and decades into majorlimitations.
For example, someone may develop a fear of speaking in front of people. Perhapssomeonewho wasthebig shot asa child,who stood up in front of people,panderedtoadults and then somehow stands there as a 20, 21, 23-year-old and thinks:"Nah, I can't do that. I'm not good enough. People arethrowingtomatoes."

JuliaYes. And that can come from somewhere elsecome from. The interesting thing is that it often can't be linked in a way that can be understood by the normal mind, but it may have been a completely different event that has nothing to do with public speaking, which is triggered again.triggered again.

Is it possible to change beliefs?

Julia:How do you deal with beliefs that really come from childhood? Can we change them at all?

Christian: Well, two thoughts on this. I think there are certainlife issues. That's what I said earlier.The topic of"talking in front of people" is also part of my story. To be honest-if I go back eight or nine years in my life - I used tohave a very perfidious strategy for avoiding events.That's when it started.
Iavoidedevents wherethere were more than ten people I didn'tknow. Of course, as an entrepreneur you'realways once invited to some event, a summer party, whatever. And I was always of the opinion that I wasn't good enough to present myself to the other entrepreneurs there and make small talk and exchange ideas with them. And in the end, when I look back, an intervention that lasted maybe an hour and a half meant that I was at least able to solve thebigproblem for the time being.
About two or three weeks after the intervention, I was invited to an eventon intercultural communication. It was a coaching event, i.e.they were all coaches. At the time,I thoughtI still wasn't good enough, even though I had so much training. That was before.Then I finallywent.I'd always had a strategy of avoiding it in the past. Iwent there and even went into the room. I knew I was an hour and a half late. That didn't stop me from sitting in the last available seat.At some point, after about ten minutes, when I looked around, I thought:"Well, that's exciting. How do I get into this room now?" And the second thought was:"Why am I sitting at the front, next to the lecturer everyone is looking at?" So, a complete reversal of my previous behavior.
How do we deal withbeliefs? There are a few wonderful mechanisms, wonderful tools. On the one hand, there are a few things from the NLP context where we"re-imprint"oldbeliefs.Thisreallymeansgoing back through the lifeline and looking:Where did thisbeliefactually originate?
There are two possibilities. I can take an exaggerated childish reaction that I noticeas the origin. Sometimes people do overreact in a childish way. And the other thing I can do is togo beyond a belief that I may be aware of. I cango back through my lifeline with a coachand take a look. There will always be different imprint situations where this has manifested itself more and more.The task is to go there and look:Where was the actual origin of this?
NLP does this relatively pragmatically. It packs a lot of resources into the initial imprint.It looks:What does theyounger selfneed? It needs security, courage, strength, joy, love. Then look again:What do the parents, who are often or usually involved in the context, need? What resources do they need? You then-to put it quite pragmatically -put the resources together and tell the client, asthey move forward through the lifeline, aresourceful life story.This ensures that the next experiences are re-evaluated. The moreimprints I have on the path to the here and now, the stronger my faith naturally becomes.Just inthose ten minutesthat I walk the path forward again, self-belief becomes the supporting belief, because the resource is simply present in the lifeline. That's how I look at it in terms of NLP.

Self-management skills

Julia: How did you solve the problem of the woman you mentioned that she thinks that changing her diet is so difficult or that it's exhausting, that it hurts?.WeissDo you remember how you went about it?

Christian: I have to say at this point that because she wanted togive up, Ipolarized hera lot. There's always this nice saying:"Wash me, but don't get me wet." We were very much in the reflective part.What Idid with her wasto a certain extent a ROMPC intervention, i.e. from this otherprocedure that Idid. There's a basic intervention and it's called:"Accept what is." That is also one of my life mottos to a certain extent. "Self-acceptance in a problem context". That's what I gave her, relatively pragmatically, along the way.
It's basically a very simple process, a very simple tool. If I placemy right hand over my left breast, there is a neuro-lymphatic point.You rubit clockwise andsay an affirmation:"I love and accept myself completely, even with the fact that ... I can't get my diet under control, that I think losing weight is difficult, etc. etc." If you scalethe stress from 0 to 10 beforehand, you will usually see an improvement of three to four points in 90% of clients.This intervention alone, that people say to themselves:"I love myself and accept myself with the issue that I have.<span data-contrast="auto">"
This is always so exciting for me. I like this exercise because itdemonstratesself-control skillsin such a simple way.I suddenly realize: Look, I'm just saying something. I don't even have to believe it.I make a slight hand movement above my chest and rub it a little and suddenly -how cool! -myfeeling of stress changes.
I gave her that back then, simply togiveherastress regulator. Thatwas anotherexample where I said:"I want towant them".We got toknoweach otherfirst, and then within an hour we looked at it:What's the crux of the matter?And then I take a look:What initial tool can I give the client specifically sothat he or she can really take control for themselves?

What role does self-sabotage play when we fail?

Julia: Do you think that we often sabotage ourselves, so to speak? We resolve to do something and then don't do it.

Christian: Yes. We're in 2020 now and the turn of the year wasn't that long ago.There are always these New Year's resolutions. Iwrote a blog article about these good intentions and the title is:"Why good intentions can't work". For me, there are several reasons for this. The first point is: yes, there are a lot ofself-sabotage programs, butfor which- and I have to defend every single one of them data-contrast="auto"> - isnobody's fault , but everyone is still responsible for it. I think that's an important point. Especially when it comes to all the patterns we've learned, it's nobody's fault. It's nobody's fault that it's like that.Nevertheless, I myself am responsible.If I want to change this, then I can really take responsibility for it. Taking it into my own hands is the first thought.

Julia: I think that's so important. So many people think:"Yeah, if I'm in charge, then it's my fault." And that you can actually separate the two.

Christian: Exactly. That's right.

Julia: I wanted to emphasize that again, because so many people somehow end up on this track: "It's up to me and it's my fault."

Christian: And I think it's important, this combination. To really say : "And yet it'severyone's responsibility".Because the worst thingthat can happen is that someone realizes - I'll put it bluntly: "Oh, I had a bad childhood, that's why it doesn't work for me anyway." Yes, it could be that you had a bad childhood. It's possible - and I was just talking about micro-traumatization - that you suffered a lot. And yet it's your responsibility now to say: "I'm going to change something. With the package I'm wearing."

Accepting the gift of life

If I look at it from a systems theory perspective,there may be things where I can say:"<span data-contrast="auto">Ok, I'm allowed to reconcile with mom and dad inside. I can do return rituals. I can make sure that I have a good relationship with my parents on the inside." Many people also get confused. When I work with this, clients like to come and ask me:"Yes, if we do this now. Do I have to drive by my mom's this afternoon and tell her..." Then I say:"Nope!"
Or the next person, where maybe mom and dad have already passed away, says:"Yes, that's no good for me. Mom and Dad are no longer alive." Then I say:" But that's not what it's about. It's about the image of mom and dad that you have inside you." I think it's nice to understand that our parents - mom and dad - are our life energy.If I hold a grudge against one of these two or possibly even both people, then I am taking away life energy. And these are very often people who don't get things done. They say:"I'm not getting anywhere. I have no strength. I have no energy."Quite oftenthey are simply fighting against themselves inside. Andthatof course, that eats up a lot of energy. It drains energy from the idea of saying:"I'm changing. I'm going the way. I'm going to take the first step", because I'm simply at odds with myself or not clear and struggling.

JuliaYes, I think it's a path, isn't it? That meansssdoesn't mean that I approve of everything.sseverything that has happened. That meanssst mean that now, if my parents really didn't behave properly, that you can condone it.sst, but it's all about: How do I deal with it??

Christian: Exactly. There's a nice image - if I look at it systemically - there's a nice ritual. It's from Bert Hellinger, and it's "accepting the gift of life" from the parents. Because that's what we can always, always, always acknowledge in our parents.As stupid as my life may have been and as much anger as I may have felt: without mom and dad, I wouldn't be on thisplanet. And that is something I can be deeply grateful for.If that's the only thing, then that's exactly what Icanaccept. To really accept the gift of life from my parents, to say - notoutwardly, but inwardly:"Mom and Dad, thank you for the gift of life. I accept it and make the best of it."

Life 5.0

Julia: You have a concept - if I may call it that - thatthat itself"Life 5.0" is called. Would you like to tell us a bit about it? What does"Life 5.0"?

Christian: I really like doing that. I smile because at some point I was asked:"How did you come up with 5.0?" And then I started talking about the concept. Ithas five points. Then someone said:"Ah, right. That's why 5.0.% I'm an honest person. No,"Life 5.0" basically came about because I said: Oh dear, life 2.0 is nothing special now and that's when I came up with 5.0 and, funnily enough, that also resulted in five points.
I believe that when people get to a point and they really say:"I want something in life change!" Then, with the experience of the last seven, eight, nine years, I took a look: Okay, what steps do I need to take to develop and change in my life? By that I don't mean asking myself the question:"Am I going to eat vegetarian tomorrow?" Rather, the question is really:"Where do I want to go professionally? Where do I want to go personally? What is my goal for the future?"
In my chronology, everything basicallystarted withthe experiencesI had with NLP, which is why I love this NLP tool so much. Iknow that there are also one or two critical voices. However, I was able to learn it in a very therapeutic way and not in the way it is often taught, in the sense of"Tchakka, the world is yours! You can do anything!"

Goal work

Nevertheless, there is an element in NLPthat isalso an element in my concept, quite pragmatically the topic ofgoal work.By goal work, however, I don'tjust meansaying ina cognitively controlled way: "I want to get there and there now".For me,goal work has a lot to do with that:Before I go into goal work, I am allowed to go into contemplation. Inotherwords, I can connect with my inner qualities, with"What is my heart actually telling me?"
At the beginning,wetalked about this fast pace in our lives. We are often very, very much in our heads and no longer in our bodies. Andthe body is the heart and the stomach. I believe that we can access all three elements and connect with our deeply hidden desires and dreams, and then we can look - relatively pragmatically, of course - at:O data-contrast="auto">kay, what is a very specific goal that I derive from this? So.And then I can look:What do I want with it?What are the next steps? What will I gain from it? What will I lose? What does my environment say? That brings me back to NLP. Andtoreallycreateavisionof where I actually want to go.
For me, for example, a vision: at some point I said:"In five years, I want to have helped at least 10,000 people take the really decisive step towards more happiness and fulfillment.And I will have founded a center where people come to seek or find personal development." Thatwas mybig vision.
But that is something I did notthought that way. Sometimes yousit there and calculate: "Aha, I might deserve that. What would I have to do for it?"For me, it came out of a meditationwhere I really felt into it: What is the picture? What are the numbers that pop up? Yes, what is thebig picture that emerges for me?For me, this is one of the most important starting elements.

Resource management

The second thing I learned in NLPis that we can practise resource management.In other words, we have plenty of strength, courage, joy, love, self-confidence, etc. in our lives. We know how it works. We 'only' have to make sure that we get into these good states.
NLP does this, for example, with anchors,where you remember goodstates data-contrast="auto"> to be able to jump over it.Because we need resources to stay on the ball. We need the energy from the resource to stay on the ball. These are the first two elements of my program.

Motivation

I have then spent the last four years working intensively on the topic ofmotivation. There are various terms for this. What for? Well,the "why",as Professor SimonSinek calls it. JohnStrelecky calls it the "purpose of existence". Then there is genius. There are many, many different terms for it.
That's what drives me on the inside. It really is a subject close to my heart. For me, it was a gamechanger in everything I did. I come from an advertising/marketing background, having run an advertising agency for 17 years. And I've alwayshad moments of pain in this business.I kept asking myself: where is this coming from? And then at some point I looked into this very topic andasked myself: Okay, what is it that actually drives me on the inside?I realized that what actually drives me,what definesme, what is the meaning of my life, is very far removed from what I do in this advertising agency business. And then I realized:Okay, this advertising agency business will be history at some point. At some point it will have to leave my life because it's just... because it's not me.
That's the third building block. To really deal with the question:What is it that really drives me on the inside? What is it that I really get up for in the morning, what am I really passionate about?This is another point that gives me energy. And if I then start and adjustmy goals again onthisbasis, and look Is this really my heart? Does it match my inner drive? Or can I readjust it again because it has too much head after all? That's the third point.

I am allowed to accept my life as it is

The fourth point is one of my life mottos:I am allowed to accept my life as it is. My past life. Because withoutit, if we hadn't experienced it all, we wouldn't be where we are today.And I can acknowledge that. I can accept that.That is an important building block that is needed. As strange as it sounds, I am allowed to accept what is there at the moment in order to move towards change.As long as I amfightingagainst what was, I will not be able to muster the energy to make changes. Step 4.

The inner team

Step 5 - and this is where we've just been talking about - I'm allowed to look: Do I have myinner team on board?By"inner team"I mean: my inner mom, my inner dad - how do they feel about my goals? And what does my inner child say?
I also do very specific exercises. In constellation work, there is a typical constellation order: Dad is on the right, mom is on the left behind you - the child tends to be in front. Your own child actually stands next to you, but that's a different topic. But I really slip into the rooms and say:"Okay, imaginethis is thechair you're sitting on. Connect yourself. And this will be your position now."
And then I go through the positions. Then I stand with the client in the dad role andlook at the client, at the goalsand see: What does Dad say? Is Dad someone who says:"<span data-contrast="auto">Yes, tschakka, come on! Step on the gas! You're the best/greatest?" Or dad says:"Oh, child, come on. No one has ever managed that with us anyway. You can't do it anyway. You're just a girl. You're just a boy. You're just this ... You're not fast enough, you're not strong enough", whatever.
Basically, I go through the individual roles at work in a very concrete way and simply ensure that a reconciliation with mom and dad takes place. To a certain extent, it has something to do with getting permission and saying to yourself:"Mom, Dad,Iget it. This is your story. Iknow that it scares you. That of course you only want the best for me. And it's my decision now to do it this way and I want you to support me."
These are the five points that I believe are needed if we really want to change something fundamental in our lives. For me, these are thekey steps.
Now we could still discuss them.Of course, this hasa lot to do with responsibility. There are peripheral issues, which are also true, but in terms of structure, this issomething I really enjoy working with, which is part of my seminar series, where we go through step by step. Because Iknow from experience how well the handbrakes in life can be released and suddenly a lightness comes in and change takes place.

At the top of the list is serenity

Julia: Can this also support the process of becoming healthy? How do you see the connection?

Christian: Definitely. I was in an interview yesterday about [occupational health management] BGM. Da I said the same thing.For me,serenitycomes first. Why is that? Serenity is a skill for me. It has nothing to do withbeing "Buddha-like". It has nothing todo with anattitude of not giving a shit.It has todowith, as I've just said, accepting what is, and alsoaccepting what is in others. To recognize: Life isfor me and notagainst against me. Everything that happens isfor me to develop further. And in the end, it's also an opportunity.
What happens isthat we have fewer stress hormones in our bodies. That has a clear effect. Physically, it has a clear effect on our health. I had a story in my own environment: one of the most important people left my life very, very early. It was my mother, who hadalways spenther whole life in dissatisfaction, anger and envy.In the end, her body signaledto her, through breast cancer several times, through ... various illnesses over 15 years, that she should have changed her lifestyle at that point.But she didn't.As a result, shediedat the age of 55. Now, I don't want to start a medical discussion.It's my very personal opinion that [unintelligible] has a lot to do with it.And that's why calmness is the first step to say: Okay, I can calm my system with this. I can use it to control my hormonal secretions to a certain extent.
And Then I believe and Iknow that there are situations in life where I may simply be caught up in dynamics that are not good for me,that keep putting me under pressure and stress.When I'm there, I can think about it: How can I - and this is where the second and third aspect - how can I find self-realization and give my life meaning?
If I manage to do that, if I organize my life in a meaningful way ... Thatdoesn't always mean that I have to throw my entire job overboard.It doesn't mean that I have to change everything in my life.It doesn't mean I have to break up. That's not the point. It's a very individual thing: what does everyone want from themselves in order to live a fulfilled, happy life? And if I do that, then - in my world -it paysinto the serenity account again. Accordingly, italsohas abig,big influence on the overall constitution.
If I make a comparison, as I have developed personally and grown more and more in my personality, my cold rate and the rate of illnesses I have had have decreased. Just my personal experience.

JuliaYes, that doesn't surprise me. Dear Christian, that's super exciting. Now what if someone says:"That would interest me. I would like to learn more about it"? You indicated that you run seminars on the subject. Would you like to tell us briefly how people can work with you?

Christian: With pleasure. The first point is, if there are any entrepreneurs in the audience, they are welcome to book me as a speaker: www.christian-holzhausen.com.

There are two basic topics. There are actually three topics. There is still the lecture "Success factor serenity", where Ilook at: Okay, how can I gain serenity in everyday business life? How can this become a success factor?
Then there is a second lecture that goes in a very personal direction, namely "Self-realization is non-negotiable".Because that's how it is for me.It is non-negotiable. We can'tdiscuss it.Everyone has the right to do it, and everyone is allowed to do it. Some don't know how. I supportwith this.
And the third lecture topic is "Making sense", where I specifically address this focus on meaning.I believe that if companies start to act andact ina more meaning-orientedway, and also communicate their meaning and mission to theoutside world, thenthat is thebiggestlever forme in termsof how we can change something in people.Because then people can come to a company because they like the mission,because they can resonate withit,because they feel comfortable there, because they can join a community. That's what the company is all about.
For all those who say that Christian's seminarsounds interesting: www.aufbruch-jetzt.com. There is my introductory seminar. It's a one-day seminar at various locations in Germany,from Kassel to Hamburg, Cologne, Frankfurt, Leipzig and Hanover. I think those are the locations for this year. It's a full day, andwe'll pack it full of reflection and outlook. That's what it's all about in terms of content.

Julia: Finally, is there anything else you would like to mention to round off this episode, so to speak?"round" so to speak? Or something you would like to share with my listeners?

Christian: Iknow you're talking about health and the gut.I thinkit's important on the one hand to ask what I canaddfromthe outsideto do something good for my body. My appeal is actually always to each individual toalso look at what I can do on the inside, from the insideout, so that I feel good?

Peace begins with you

I recently saw a beautifulkeynote. And it started with the words:"I have a dream. And my dream is that we have peace in the world." And he then broke it down. He said that if we want peace in the world, then we have to ensure thatthere is peace on every single continent. If we want peace on every single continent, then we have to ensure thatthere is peace in every single country.He breaks this down further and endsbysaying that we need peace in every family. And if we want peace in every family, then we must have peace in every individual.
I believe we can start there and everyone can look: Do I include myself?We can make sure that we work a little every day to be at peace with ourselves, to be happy with ourselves, thenat some point we willalso becomea"world community". That is mygreat vision, my hope. Then we will make the difference and I believe we will have a peaceful planet. Maybe that's the last bow I'll give.

JuliaYes. Thank you. Thank you very much for the lovely conversation. I would be delighted if we could stay in touch.

Christian: Very, very much, dearJulia.

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Website of Christan Holzhausen:https://www.christian-holzhausen.com

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